One-child policy in China leads to male surplus - they resort to desperate measures


- Christian Böhm
FOCUS online editor Christian Böhm
There's a male surplus in China. Single men are increasingly turning to dating coaches to improve their chances on the marriage market. The gender imbalance, partly caused by politics, is creating new challenges.
With a significant gender imbalance resulting from the one-child policy, many Chinese men face particular challenges in finding a partner. There are approximately 30 million more men than women in China .
This inequality, coupled with the high standards expected of men in marriage, has led to innovative solutions, such as the rising popularity of dating coaches, reports Newsweek .
In China , men are traditionally expected to provide financial security, which often includes owning a home and a vehicle. Furthermore, the demands for social, financial, and professional security are continually rising as women increasingly achieve higher levels of education and professional success.
A successful dating coach known as Hao offers "dating camps" that help men improve their social skills. According to Newsweek, he claims to have served over 3,000 clients and brokered 500 successful marriages.
A documentary by Violet Du Feng explores these "dating camps" in China and highlights the challenges posed by the digital world. Du Feng describes how the digital landscape increases the pressure for self-optimization while simultaneously complicating the search for authenticity. In the film, Hao expressed his discomfort with the sometimes superficial strategies he teaches his clients.
Declining marriage rates in China are raising concerns about potential economic consequences, as the birth rate is also declining. The United Nations predicts a decline in China's population to below 800 million by 2100 if current trends continue. Government policies continue to try to encourage young people to start families.

Edited images and the sheer number of potential partners contribute to a distorted sense of reality and heightened expectations. This often leads to what is known as "dating burnout," which can arise from the constant stress and frustration of online dating. An estimated 14 percent of dating app users are affected, which can manifest itself in emotional exhaustion and cynicism.
To prevent burnout, experts recommend realistic self-presentation and avoiding pressure to improve yourself. It's important not to pretend and be honest with potential partners.
Users should ensure that communication remains authentic and focus on people who spark genuine interest. These tips should help counteract the frustration of endless swiping and superficial encounters and ultimately find a fulfilling relationship.
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