Has Having Kids Made It Harder to Have Sex Like Before? 5 Tips for Maintaining Connection

When you're finally alone, leave your problems outside the bedroom and try something different: a new position, a sensual cosmetic, a fantasy game, a provocative soundtrack. Innovating in bed, even if discreetly, helps break the routine and brings more excitement to the moment for two.

5. Intimacy doesn't need penetration

It won’t always be possible to have full-on sex — and that’s okay. Caresses, kisses, massages, a bath together, or simply cuddling and exchanging affectionate words are powerful ways to maintain complicity. Being close and touching each other with loving and erotic intentions helps couples stay emotionally and sexually connected, even on the busiest days.

Maintaining an active sex life with children at home requires creativity, partnership and willingness. It’s not about having a perfect routine, but rather prioritizing intimacy as an essential part of the relationship. After all, desire can — and should — also be nurtured.

Sources: Ellen Moraes Senra, psychologist specializing in cognitive-behavioral therapy, from Rio de Janeiro (RJ); Livia Marques, psychologist from Rio de Janeiro (RJ); Marina Prado Franco, Master in Clinical Psychology from PUC-SP (Pontifical Catholic University of São Paulo); Triana Portal, clinical psychologist and couples therapist, from São Paulo (SP) and Yuri Busin, psychologist and doctor in behavioral neuroscience from Universidade Presbiteriana Mackenzie and director of CASME (Mental Health Care Center), in São Paulo (SP)