High EQ?: These are the characteristics that emotionally intelligent people have in common

Admittedly, emotions can be quite annoying, especially painful ones like grief, anger, jealousy , or unrequited love! They also often seem to distract us and get in the way of our thoughts—or can you concentrate well on your job when you're newly in love ? So, it's no wonder that people who let their emotions guide them tend to be viewed as weak and childish in our society, while intellectuals are viewed as strong and successful... but only in that sense!

Because in truth, it's our emotional richness and the complexity of our emotional world that make us human in the first place. Without our emotions, we would be empty, uniform shells, working through our lives' to-do lists like robots—a to-do list that we wouldn't even have written ourselves, but that simply emerged within our social and biographical niche. A terrible thought!

Therefore, dealing with emotions well and intelligently (contrary to the apparently persistent view) does not consist in suppressing them as disciplined and successfully as possible. No! Emotional intelligence means understanding feelings , being authentic , and using your emotions to guide your own personal path in life.

And people who do this can typically be recognized by these six characteristics, among others.

6 characteristics of emotionally intelligent people 1. You allow all feelings equally

Emotionally intelligent people know that nothing in life is permanent, neither happiness nor suffering. They use happy phases to strengthen their strength, their (self-)confidence, and their courage—and are then better able to persevere during unhappy phases. They also know that worry, fear, and pain don't mean they're on the wrong path, but that indifference and apathy are the real warning signs.

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2. You know the difference between feelings and reality

Emotionally intelligent people are aware that their feelings are their personal reactions to their perceptions and depend on their experiences, moods, and evaluations. Therefore, they are never completely powerless or helpless, because they don't look for the blame or cause of their emotions in others or external factors, but rather within themselves—and there, ultimately, they have sole control.

3. You are empathetic and genuinely interested in others

Emotionally intelligent people see and respect others as beings just as feeling, searching, and independent as themselves. They know that compassion, consideration, and empathy strengthen a community and that we can help and inspire one another when we are open to one another.

4. They don’t let others dictate their path

Emotionally intelligent people realize that we don't form many of our own ideas ourselves, but rather automatically adopt them through living in a large society (for example, beauty ideals, life goals such as wealth, professional success, or two children, a girl and a boy...). Therefore, they take the time to critically examine their thoughts and principles and free themselves from concepts and ideas that they perceive as alien.

5. You can assess others well

Emotionally intelligent people have a good sense of who they want to open up to and who they prefer to keep their distance from. They consistently say "no" to relationships that only drain their energy, while acting compassionately, magnanimously, generously, and faithfully in equal partnerships and friendships.

6. You put yourself first

Emotionally intelligent people always stand up for their own needs, rights, and interests. They know that no one else is responsible for them, because no one else knows them as well and can care for them as they can. Furthermore, they are fully aware that they are a burden to others and would therefore be doing themselves a disservice if they didn't take care of themselves.

sus Brigitte

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