36 Thoughtful Gifts to Lift Their Spirits Post-Divorce

Divorce itself tends to be messy, and the emotional impact even more so. If one of your loved ones is going through the process, you might feel like a helpless onlooker. What is there to say—congratulations? I’m sorry? The tangled web of sentiments is usually as layered and confusing as can be. Like with any true hardship, there’s no simple answer. I’ve done my share of talking to friends and family on this subject and have also read up on many forums (the divorced community is very supportive on Reddit, who knew?), and from what I can tell, the best way you can show your love is by making it clear that you are by their side. And for you, maybe that looks like a nicely wrapped present to bring a smile to his or her face. Below, I’m walking you through 36 thoughtful gift ideas for someone going through divorce.

Heartfelt

Divorce can make a person feel completely alone, and the outpouring of love from friends and family is often far more impactful than anyone realizes. For this reason, I advise getting as sappy and sentimental as you want. Their whole world is shifting, and it feels like a massive deal, so it’s validating when you treat it as such. Giving from the heart might look like a relaxing trip to the spa, a crochet kit for a meditative distraction, or a fresh journal. I love Gorjana’s line of bracelets that each represent themes of tranquility, confidence, and love feel especially relevant. A low-maintenance plant is also a nice gesture, as it can serve as a tangible reminder of their own growth. Like I said, the consensus is that they want their loved ones to show up for them—to take them to a movie, go for a walk, or come over for lunch. A DIY coupon book full of little promises like these will feel absolutely priceless.

Practical

When in doubt, a useful gift is a surefire win. In the instance of divorce or separation, there are typically ample opportunities for this. In the split, their ex might get all the steak knives, the vacuum, or the streaming services. Don’t be afraid to ask what items need to be replaced. With any breakup, I think fresh sheets should be mandatory, and that’s a practical gift that still feels luxe. You could also treat them to a meal kit service specially designed for those cooking for one. A gift card or new luggage is also a great idea, as they encourage a bit of self-care.

Light-Hearted

Laughter is the best medicine, as they say. Now, this might not be the most appropriate avenue to take with everyone, but you know your friend best; if he or she believes in laughing instead of crying (or some of both), lean into that. Stop by with a jumbo bottle of margarita mix or treat them to an experiential gift like an afternoon of smashing plates at a rage room (use Virgin Experiences to find one near you). You could also opt to get them a personalized ring for that finger to ease the adjustment of not wearing a wedding band. Perhaps you inscribe it with their initials or maybe a certain four-letter word....just spitballing ideas here.

Cards

Regardless of the circumstances—whether it’s a birthday, graduation, or breakup—I always say that a heartfelt card is one of the best offerings you can give someone. A meaningful message goes a very long way, especially when going through something as isolating and lonesome as the dissolution of a relationship. If you don’t have room in your budget to lavish your friend in goodies, that’s okay. What they need most is a reminder that you’re there for them.

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