Maria went through a transition, the impulse was given to her by her daughter. "For me, he's still dad"

Two years ago, my hand was shaken by a middle-aged man with a beard – Marek. Today I greet a woman with pink hair, great, expressive make-up, a tight dress that emphasizes her breasts. Her burgundy-painted nails draw attention. As do her high-heeled shoes.

Femininity in full swing. It's Maria Minakowska. Officially, with a court decision in this matter.

The aforementioned first meeting takes place during an interview with her daughter – Sara – who suffers from anhedonia.

Translated from Greek, this term literally means "lack of pleasure." It is a symptom of various types of mental disorders in which the patient is unable to derive pleasure from what used to please them or the level of pleasure experienced is much lower than before. Sarah's pleasure center simply does not work.

"For me he's still dad"

Now, two years later, things are better, although she still has a long way to go. This year, the girl took her final exams. What will happen next? Time will tell. First, the results.

Sara lives with Maria on a daily basis. Maria, whom she has known as a father for 18 years of her life. A father who supports, loves, and sacrifices for her. Currently, a revolution is taking place in their everyday lives.

– To me, he's still my dad. He just looks different – ​​emphasizes the 19-year-old.

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Sara has her associations.

– Dad is one person, mom is another. I feel like a mom – I have motherhood in me – but for Sara I am a dad. A dad in the feminine gender, although she often calls me simply “you.”

The changes in Maria occur gradually, over months. Her daughter, with her keen sense of observation, watches with curiosity.

– Sara saw the woman in me even before I saw the woman in myself. I had and still have a huge problem understanding my own feelings. She reads them better, she helped me discover myself.

Once he shows Maria a YouTube video where a guy styles himself as a girl. He proves that it's not a problem.

- She is incredibly smart. I see this chasm in her: on the one hand, an incredible intellect, on the other - a body that - due to illness - does not give energy, joy, pleasure - emphasizes Maria.

Their gender expressions are very different. Maria is thriving, perfectly in this role. Sara is still overcoming barriers of shyness. She also adopts some of her father's male clothing.

- For me, the person is important. Gender is secondary, or maybe not important at all. I don't want to fit into any patterns. I am just myself - says the girl.

Although they don't exchange wardrobe items on a daily basis, at the beginning of Maria's transformation journey, it is her daughter who introduces her to femininity. She helps paint her nails or dye her hair.

How does he feel about it? Isn't he afraid of losing his dad?

- A bit like that. On the one hand, I feel bad that he behaves and looks different. On the other, the most important thing for me is how he feels and if he feels better like that, he should be himself. He loves me the same, regardless of hair color.

Beard is a symbol

Maria announces her transition a year ago. She writes a post about it on Facebook. However, she still has a beard, which becomes a kind of symbol.

– I didn’t want to wear it any longer, it was holding back my transformation. It took Sarah and I two and a half months to get used to it. Eventually, my daughter finally accepted that I wouldn’t have a beard anymore, but I know she still misses it.

Maria – as she repeatedly emphasizes in our conversation – wants to be a beautiful and “feminine woman.”

– Every other change happened much faster. Hair color, makeup, nails, clothes. At first I thought I would be someone in between – a hermaphrodite. I was testing how far I could go. My first attempt at femininity was women's tracksuits. I wore them for jogging, although later I functioned like a man. For a long time I felt that "I wasn't allowed" because social rules forbade it, everyone would think I was crazy and turn their backs on me.

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Now it's different. Emotions that have been blocked for a long time are finding an outlet. Maria is no longer afraid. She bravely takes the next steps in heels.

– If it weren’t for Sara, I would have been my wife’s husband for the rest of my life and nothing would have happened. My daughter – somewhat unconsciously – took matters into her own hands. Her depression, then divorce, living together, anhedonia – that was an avalanche that led me to this moment. Thanks to her, I allowed myself to discover my own femininity. She pushed and motivated me to change.

The court entrusts Maria with custody of her daughter.

– I became a single mother, in a way, with a teenage girl. I had this idea that if I could somehow replace her mother, then I was one step away from being a woman.

Even though they live in Tarnów, which is not a big city, Maria and Sara do not encounter hate. As the teenager admits – fortunately.

"The hardest part is already behind me"

Maria feels that all experiences, even the difficult ones, are necessary. Ultimately, they lead her to this moment in life. This, the best – with a sense of freedom, in full bloom of femininity.

– Sometimes they ask me if I'm not afraid. No. What? The hardest part is already behind me. Could I have done something sooner? Probably filed for divorce. But I felt that marriage was sacred and could not be broken under any circumstances.

Maria, looking back, thinks she should have listened to her daughter more. “Our paths are diverging a bit now, because we are both growing up and maturing as women.”

The woman has written a book about transition. She hopes to have it published soon. But that's not all.

#Minakowska2030

Minakowska wants to run for president in 2030. She publishes the statement on Facebook.

"When I wrote that I was ready to run for president in 2030, I wasn't joking. I have better skills than Nawrocki, I am the same age as Duda and Trzaskowski, and I would like to act as the one who connects everyone - men and women, Catholics and progressives, people from Tarnów with people from Warsaw.

I know what it's like to be a father fighting in court for custody of a child and I know what it's like to be a single mother fighting for the life of a child. The Church disowns me, but I don't fight it, I just wait until it understands its mistake and accepts me back, as Mary, not Mark. I am the one who unites instead of dividing - and that would be my slogan," we read.

As she explains in a June 10 interview with "Rzeczpospolita" - she wants to enter the presidential race as someone outside the system, who is able to empathize with everyone, including people who voted for Grzegorz Braun or the far left. "I used to be identified with the right, and as a result of transition I fell into a leftist environment, because most LGBT people have such views. In addition, in my genealogical activity for years I have been involved in connecting, showing that we are one big family" - we read in the article by W. Ferfecki "Genealożka chce być prezydentką".

She reveals there, however, that her main motive is to normalize transgenderism. To show that it is something ordinary that should not be the subject of political disputes. She says something similar three months earlier, in an extensive interview for "Gazeta Wyborcza" on Women's Day. Asked by W. Szot, "what kind of media figure do you want to be?" she replies: "A nice old lady from the ground floor."

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